In the United Kingdom mixed race people are officially the future face of the country. Consequently, "the growing number of mixed relationships have been suggested to be evidence of a more tolerant society".

I will not interfere with this statement ; I let you form your opinion.

My experience is that one way or the other my child stands out in his class. It is my responsibility to determine whether it is his skin colour, his boisterous behaviour or his intelligent that stands out.

There’s no manual for raising children. I personally believe that good parenting is a complicated recipe of nurturing, support, protection, understanding, guidance and relatability.

It means not only that you buy dolls with hair and skin like your daughters, so she learns to embrace her own beauty but also that you make sure that the child has a library of black literature at her disposal- just to mention a few examples.

The most concerning perception towards children from ethnic groups is that "they have special educational needs". This is something my husband always reminds me of. He always says we can never forget that people have an opinion about our children even before they know them. 

 It is not a secret that I spend more time with our children than my husband as he is currently extremely busy with his Master's degree studies.

My husband is from Nigeria and I know that Nigerians have a strong culture of achievement with high expectations of pupils. I also know a lot of Nigerian mothers that take time out of their schedule for supporting their children's education.

I as a white woman from Hungary want to make sure that first of all I have the right attitude towards diversity and inclusivity and second of all I become a role model for my children.

I know that probably my children hate our rule of " no TV on weekdays" and they don't always in the mood to learn Hungarian and Yoruba songs/ poems or complete extra writing exercises. However , I had to realise that mothers of black or mixed-race children have to work extra hard to make sure we stand out for the right reason.


Living in an interracial relationship is not as complicated as many might think. I live in Manchester with my husband , a Nigerian filmmaker, and our two children.

The question I hear all too frequently is " What is it like living with a black guy?" Even my husband asked me before " what does he feel like having mixed-race children?" or as my dad would say, cappuccino kids.

My answer is pretty simple. It doesn't make any difference. A lot of the times I don’t even notice skin colours.

I remember when my friend referred to someone as a light skinned Nigerian girl and I didn't even notice the girl was light-skinned.

The thing is I don't have time to  think about skin colours when "I am busy with my life, paying bills, raising children etc."

As interracial marriages have become increasingly common it is time for people to realise how easy it is to live in one. I mean there are a  few things to get used to but that is a story for another day. For example, the food is something I had to adjust to and I still do.

But all in all living in an inter-racial relationship is just as simple as any other relationship.

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