THE STRUGGLE OF BEING MIXED RACE

Ethnically ambiguous is the most recent fancy word that supposed to categories my children, but all it means is off-white skin colour, preferably with a slight almond shape to the eyes.

I was thinking about this term today. Thinking about how my kids kind of fit into this category. I personally hate filling forms for my children because first of all I know that my children are more than just their racial background and they don't have to fit a mold that other people think they should fit.


But the reality is that they are certain things that they will have to go through in their life and I am trying to prepare them for them. I know that my son has never saw himself different to anybody else until someone else pointed it out, until someone called him "Oyinbo Pepper" in Nigeria etc.

Most human being don't want to stand out ; they want to blend in as much as possible. However an interesting part of the journey as a young multiracial person growing up is the rejection from both sides of my ethnic identity. That thought brought me to an interview that MAGNUM N3 recorded in 2015. Click on the logo to watch, very interesting.







Well, my message to my children is that there is no textbook on how to be multiracial and be okay with it. You just have to be your own person. You are who you are and no one else is like you and that's pretty cool.


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I AM GIVING THE MARRIAGE A YEAR OR SO!



Call me crazy to write here, but I’m very angry


 when people say (behind our back):


I AM GIVING THE MARRIAGE A YEAR OR SO!


Most people still don't believe black and white people can exist together. One of my readers described it perfectly: "every thing God created seems to exist in different colors, from cats to potatoes,and do you see cats complaining when the orange one has to meet with the black one? no. I don't get why it has to be so complicated with humans and we are supposed to be smarter?"

I am always asked what it is like to be married to a Nigerian? But tell you the truth I really don't know. I guess it is not different to be married to a Hungarian or Chinese. All of us has different favourite foods , different favourite songs and things that you need to get used to as a spouse. 

I personally always forget that I married a black man...lol

 I love my husband and won't let others tell me how long we will be married. Get over it. We are here to stay. AMEN.



This post has been inspired by negative comments on my very first home video posted on my husband's youtube channel:



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LIEBSTER AWARD NOMINATION



I am delighted to announce that my blog was nominated for the Liebster Award by one of my fellow bloggers. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!




How it works:
I’ll be answering ten questions, and then nominate ten blogs I enjoy reading.

I’ll let my nominees know that they’ve been nominated and give them a link to this post. They then have to nominate someone and answer 10 questions I’ll put to them. Oh, and the nomination of has to be presented on the post.

It’s a chain that promotes writing you love as well as having your own writing promoted. But it’s of course up to my nominees if they will accept the award or not.

So let’s get started on these questions :



1. What does blogging mean to you?

Blogging is a fantastic way of expressing myself. My blog is about my journey of learning about "Nigerian things" There are a lot of things I didn't know when I got married to a Nigerian man and I thought I should write these down to help others going through similar journey.


2. What was the hardest topic you blogged about and why?

About mixed race children. This blog got a lot of unwanted attention simply becasue people have divided opinion about the topic. I just focused on telling my point of view and I encouraged others to express theirs.

3. How often do you write?

Unfortunately I don't write as often as would like to. I am a mother of two, working full-time, in my free time I help out in our family business and I also have a small business as well. So I am pretty busy and writing took a backseat for a while now.

4. If you could feature on anybody's blog, who would it be and why?

I would love to feature on Bella Naija's blog or Linda Ikeji's blog for obvious reasons. They have a large audience and I think I could reach more people with my message if I had the opportunity to feature on their blogs.

5. Your favourite blogger e-mails you to ask for a guest post. Who is it? And why that blogger?

Bloggers that normally email me have something to do with Nigerian culture. They are normally other "white naija" ladies that are interested in similar topics I cover.

6. What are your goals for your blog?

I would like my blog to achieve a larger vision. I could imagine to have my logo on a clothing line on a fashion show or have a TV station with White Naija Girl. Whatever my blog will achieve I just want people to have fun following its journey.

7. How do you feel after having published a post?

I'm always happy to see when the blog is growing and it gets interests. Sometimes that's all I need to write more and more.


8. What do you do besides blogging?

I make films with my husband. I am a very organised person and I happened to be really good at producing films/music videos/ webisodes. Currently working on the latter.

9. What did you want to become when you were little?

When I was really little I said to my mum I wanted to be a petrol station attendant simple because at the time they have carried large amount of cash when serving customers. In other words I just wanted to be rich lol

...still working on that one.
10. Mention three interesting facts about yourself.

The first interesting thing about me is my attitude towards Nigerian culture. This is something most people had a hard time to understand. They have found it bizarre that I sent my son to Nigeria for a year just to learn the culture and language. It was simply because it is important for me to introduce my children to the Nigerian culture.

Interestingly before I relocated to the Uk I have studied German and Dutch languages in my country, in Hungary. Unfortunately I have lost some of my knowledge but I can still read, write and understand all four languages. (obviously my Hungarian and English a lot better now than my Dutch and German)

And lastly not many people know that I have no Hungarian family members living around me. I have left Hungary at 22 without speaking any English. I went through a lot of struggle while tried to find my way around life and I can confidently say now that hard work pays off.

I speak English now, have a lovely family and things just working out now. Thank God.




Here are the blogs I love to read, in no particular order. As you can see, these are ten very different blogs. I like variety and blogs from where I can learn and be challenged.
1. Bella Naija
2. Linda Ikeji
3. Lauren Henley
4. Chidinma Inspirations
5. TheAfricaYouwontSeeOnTV
6. Blind girl moments
7. Erywon Yeahmen
8. A Fulani-Nigerian in Britain
9. The Outlook from here
10. Diary of an exotic escort

Finally, the questions for those I nominated

1. What does blogging mean to you?
2. What was the hardest topic you blogged about and why?
3. How often do you write?
4. If you could feature on anybody├Žs blog, who would it be and why?
5. Your favourite blogger e-mails you to ask for a guest post. Who is it? And why that blogger?
6. What are your goals for your blog?
7. How do you feel after having published a post?
8. What do you do besides blogging?
9. What did you want to become when you were little?
10. Mention three interesting facts about yourself.