While many traditions have gone by the wayside over the years, Nigerian way of hosting has never gone out of style. My husband and I have been guests several times and I thought I should pen down what I’ve learnt during some of these visits.

Let’s start with the fact that Nigerians like visiting each other (often impromptu), in fact they would visit a friend or family rather than go out to a pub. As a host, you must make sure you appear happy to see your guests even if they came at the worst time.

Another thing that was a bit unusual for me is that often you are expected to offer cooked food to your guests such as egusi soup, stew rice, eba etc. In my home-country of Hungary, guest are only offered snacks such as biscuit and cake.

If you eat iyan and egusi soup as I did today at my husband’s uncle’s house you have to also remember that the proper way to consume such food is with you hand, and you'll be given finger bowls and towels.

More importantly, it is deemed rude to use your left hand to eat, pass or receive anything in a Nigerian household. And unlike Europeans, Nigerians might find it offensive if you start blowing your nose noisily in front of them.

Finally DON'T use only first names to address people. Nigerians are very class oriented people and so younger people are expected to respect their elders by calling them Sister/Aunty  Tope or Uncle Femi.

If you're going to get one thing from this post, make it the fact that Nigerians are warm, polite, and caring people when it comes to hosting.


I've been to a baby shower the other day. It was a great fun and a great experience. We were singing and listening to African music,eating naija food and had games like “say a baby boy’s name beginning with the letter that’s been given to you”. I met great people and had a lot of fun.

One thing that I noticed at the party was that everybody was trying to talk to everyone. There were no small groups of people that were only talking to each other. Everybody became a friend of everyone very quickly after the party started.
You would probably say that at a small house party that’s normal anyway. But believe me, I’ve been to places where it wasn't like that.

The person organized the baby shower made sure everybody wore maxi dress and had baby bump. It was very funny when people tied blanket, pillow or even teddy bear to their tummies. Some of the girls even used cotton ball to make their belly button sticking out just as the real would during pregnancy.
So everybody looked pregnant for a day. It was fun. It was also fun when people started to sing Yoruba songs. I wish I could have sung with them but I can’t sing in Yoruba yet. Maybe I will learn something now that I have motivation. I’m always amazed how many songs Nigerian people know by heart. If I want to keep up, I have to learn quite a few of them.

We were also talking about delivery and labour and people were trying to give practical advise to the ones that were expecting for real. When we talked about breastfeeding and caring for the baby, I noticed that almost everyone was breastfeeding who had a baby before. In the UK there are more women that are bottle feeding even though midwifes are trying to promote breastfeeding at every given occasion.

There is one more thing that I have to mention related to African children. African mothers are tying their baby on their back when they are going out or even in the house when they have things to do. This allows the baby to look around and be close to their mummy.
Once my sister in law put my baby on her back and surprisingly he fell asleep within 5 minutes. In a couple of days later I was trying to do the same but I just couldn’t figure out how I should do it. I guess there is still a lot to learn.


I find it extremely important to understand my partner even when He speaks his own language. So I started to learn Yoruba. The video above is  my first proper Yoruba lesson recorded by myself. My aim is to motivate myself with recording my progress and of course if I can help other white naija girls learning Yoruba then that's great.

What do I think about the language?

I think Yoruba is not an easy language in a way that you really have to be careful with the pronunciation. Yoruba is a tonal language and the same word can mean 4-5 different thinsg according to the right pronunciation.

I did some research about the language and I came across the following interesting facts:

· Yoruba is spoken by up to 30 million people in Africa
· Yorubaland extends across Nigeria, Benin Republic and Togo. (all in West Africa)
· 200 years ago Yoruba was transported to Latin America during the Atlantic Slave trade
· In Brazil, the Yoruba heritage is still very evident

Yoruba has certain special alphabets:
· e with a dot under the e pronounced eeh
· gb pronounced gbii
· with a dot under the o pronounced awwh
· s with a dot under the s pronounced shh
· a pronounced aah
· e pronounced like a in English

If you know anything else about the language please let me know! I'm always interested!


Ọ̀gẹ̀dẹ̀ dùn tó bá pọ́n, sùgbọ́n tó bá pọ́n láàpọ́njù oúnjẹ ni fún ẹyẹ oko. /
Banana is sweet when ripe, but if it's overripe it will become food for the birds.
“Few things are impossible to diligence and skill. Great works are performed not by strength, but perseverance”


If you're serious about increasing your core strength, follow me this week. We'll be doing sit ups challenge.
This is a basic challenge and the same for all levels. If it's too easy do more BUT never less.

Here we go...

Day 1 - Monday: 10

Day 2 - Tuesday: 20

Day 3 - Wednesday: 30

Day 4 - Thursday: 40

Day 5 - Friday: 50

Day 6 - Saturday: 60

Day 7 - Sunday: 70


Headaches, shakiness, dizziness, mood swings, lethargy, lack of energy, lack of concentration, extreme hunger, cravings, these symptoms have all something to do with being overweight and even more with blood sugar. 

I would like to refer to my last post as I had some people emailed me asking if they can eat carbs and still lose weight. In my last post I described a diet without sugar and flour BUT I never said I don’t eat carbs. I actually think you cannot lose weight HEALTHILY if you only eat protein. Yes, you will lose weight as your body will use body fat for energy, but you will also develop other diseases such as kidney stones, not to mention you will have cravings all day long. Let me explain why you need carbohydrate.

The key to losing weight and keeping it off is keeping your blood sugar level stable. –says Christine Avanti in her book “Skinny Chicks don’t eat salads” Understand this concept and apply it in your diet and miracle will happen to your body.

What is blood sugar?

Our bodies need sugar to function properly. Brain, nerve and red blood cells can only run on sugar (in other name glucose) in your blood. Glucose comes from the carbohydrate that we eat. But please don’t just think of white bread, pasta and sweets. Veggies, fruits, beans, whole grains are the best sources of carbs. You need carbs every four hours as the brain and nervous system don’t store glucose. But the trick is getting the right amount of right carbohydrate at the right times.

The perfect blood sugar is between 80 and 120 milligram of glucose per decilitre of blood. Anywhere above and below this range can result in fat storage. Your blood sugar in the morning is super low because you haven’t eaten all night long. So when you wake up in the morning and you eat the wrong carbohydrate (sugary coffee, custard, white bread) your blood sugar increase rapidly. But as rapidly your blood sugar increased, just as rapidly it will drop. And the result will be hunger in a half an hour and the symptoms that I mentioned at the beginning of this article.

Good news is that when you eat whole grains, fruits, vegetables your blood sugar will still remain at normal level. There is a very important hormone that takes part in the process: Insulin.

I will talk about insulin next time, so check back tomorrow. Until then try to make better nutritional choices and get healthier!


Research shows that when you meet someone face-to-face, 93% of how you are judged is based on non-verbal data - your appearance and your body language. Only 7% is influenced by the words that you speak. Whoever said that you can't judge a book by its cover failed to note that people do.

After my pregnancy I felt very fat. You know when you are pregnant you just eat anyhow because you feel you and your baby need it. And after delivery when you face the reality you feel really upset. At least that's what I felt. 

Especially when you have a Nigerian husband and you eat white rice, eba and egusi all the time you don't even know what to do to lose weight. You want to slim down but you also want to favor your husband and of course yourself by cooking these foods. And who wants to stop eating Nigerian food? Nigerian food is tasty and when you eat it, you feel like you eat real food. 

However, we women always want to look beautiful. We make our self gorgeous, we dye our hair, buy nice clothes and of course we want to be slim.

It  took a while for me to figure out how I can achieve all of these at the same time. Today I manage my weight successfully, I eat Nigerian foods and make sure I am the most beautiful woman for my husband.

I know that most Nigerian women don't take weight issues too seriously. At least most of my friends don't. They think if their husband is not complaining, they don't have to lose weight or at least maintain their current weight. They also think, when you have a few children you "have to get fatter". What is your experience? I'm looking forward to your comments.


Thanks to my husband, Gbenga  I was able to take part in a photo shoot with Kickin' it with the Kinks. The organisation which was founded by Cynthia Butare, a Swiss Ruwandan documentary filmmaker who is working hard on promoting natural beauty particularly among women of African heritage.

Having made a documentary Kickin' it with the Kinks, which won her the best film at the Manchester Metropolitan University for her final year project, Cynthia is working tirelessly on raising the profile of black women using the power of the media. 
The inspiration for her film came when she realised she couln't remember what her natural hair looked like as she was stuck in a vicious cycle of fixing artificial weaves. She was eager to find out why it is that most black women don't wear their natural hair.
She found out that there is more than just fashion behind the scenes and that the subject of hair and how it is worn amongst black women is tied to an ugly past which most people are not prepared to accept.  She conducted interviews with several women of varrying heritage and its quite interesting to find out how strongly some, especially women of African heritage feel about their hair or hair extensions need I say.
Unfortunately, most African women have been indoctrinated into believing that their natural hair is a no go area, hence would rather 'indulge' themselves by doning european styled natural hair. Apart from the monetary cost of matching up with the 'white beauty' which had been propagated by former masters, there are many other adverse consequences to the black woman. (The video should be available later in the year).
In keeping up with her theme, Cynthia decided to team with Gbenga to do a photo shoot which will promote women's natural beauty.You can see a video documentary of the photo shoot below and it involves women of different shades and tones. And all the women involved, including me are beautiful.  
Makeup artist: Kada Faida
photographer: Gbenga Afolabi
models: Stacy Toussaint, George Oluyinka, Damiana Casile, Khota D. Aleer , Ange Ka and Emese Afolabi
music: DivaGeek, Belle, Naomi the Empress and Zakes Bantwini


Nigeria's president has led Africa's most populous country in celebrations to mark 50 years since independence from the UK.

Busloads of schoolchildren have arrived in Tafawa Balewa Square in the centre of Lagos.

She says the ceremony will be slightly lower key than in 1960 with the national guard parading before the Lagos state governor and his royal highness, the Oba of Lagos, the traditional king, and other dignitaries.

But across Lagos, outside the square the mood is quiet, as many people appear to being taking advantage of the public holiday to leave the city to visit families.


This page is called WHITE NAIJA GIRL I'm sure many people know what "white" and "girl" mean. What what about "naija"?

"Naija is a word we Nigerians guard jealously" - says a Nigerian.
As a Hungarian person all I know is that "Naija" is a short form of Nigerian.

It has a special pronounciation as well.
"It must be punchy - both syllables should be emphasised but with a hook for the "Nai" and jab for the "ja"."
Some people have special feeling about it as well:

Here is a selection of your comments:

What Naija means to me is: Nai - the old Nigeria with a bad image because of corrupt ex-leaders and Ja - a slang for disappear. So when we say Naija, it means that we, the youth, are determined to cleanse the country and show the world the true colour of this great nation. Naija for real! Simon, Enugu, Nigeria

Naija means a lot to me - it is my home and it is where I will die. There is no place like home and that place is Naija. Even with the corrupt practices and the kidnappings, it is only we Nigerians who can solve our problems. I do not think there is any need for us to run somewhere else, instead it is better we sit down and and resolve this issue. After all, other countries have their problems to solve, so let's stay and solve ours. I love my country, my father's land and my home. Naija - what a place to be. Obireh Erhuvwu, Kaduna, Nigeria


I have to admit that I have never been one of those women who just can’t sit down because she’s always cleaning something. I know my husband wish I would but I just find reading, studying and pretty much everything else more important than do the necessary housework. It's much easier to say I'll do it later, but unfortunately later turns into tomorrow. Don't get me wrong, my house isn't filthy, but I tend to put off until tomorrow what I should do today.

When I find myself lacking the necessary motivation to get the job done, I try to remember what I've read about God bringing order from chaos. There was a time when I delved into books that talked about how so much of good and evil falls along the lines of order and chaos: life brings order out of random elements, death returns it to chaos. Peaceful societies are orderly, war is chaotic. What separates beautiful music from annoying noises is the harmonious organization of the notes. And so on.

When you take a look at the big picture of the battle of good and evil, you see that so much of what the devil does simply involves destroying order.

At first all of these thoughts were confined to my head and the pages of books,but then I began to see these themes in my daily life. One day I was standing at the sink, washing plates, and it hit me: I was bringing order out of chaos.

I'm still struggling sometimes to turn off the computer and start to work but I can honestly say that once I understood the spirituality of housework and when I'm looking around after a good cleaning I know that I just won a victory for God.


No pain no gain.  Have you heard this saying before? true, isn't it. This saying inspired me to start a new topic on this blog.

Every week I'll have a little goal that iI'll try to reach.  If you follow me we will learn Yoruba together while get fitter and healthier.

This week our challenge of the week is :  ONLY WATER challenge.  We'll not going to drink anything else but WATER. No coffee, no tea, no soda and malt drink.
What's the point of this? I noticed that people tend to forget drinking water -especially in England. We drink coffee,  tea, lemonade, orange/apple/grapes juice but never water.

This week we'll show the world that we are different. ! We can will give a break to our body and get beautiful skin in exchange.


Religion is very important to Nigerian people. I did my homework and found out that 45% of the population in Nigeria is Christian, 45% Muslim and the rest 10% is a mix of religions.

Nigerian people love church. They love going to church and singing praise songs. It’s not a secret that my church is mainly a Nigerian church. Most of the people are from Nigeria, apart from some Oyibos like me.

I like Nigerian churches because every one of them that I went to taught me something. I love the way how Nigerian pastors explaining things. They are not just reading out the Bible passage but also explaining it and giving examples from daily life. I still remember these given examples and I’ve learnt a lot from them.

I’ve also noticed that for Nigerian people, no prayer is ever long enough and no song is ever loud enough. Sometimes what begins as a normal speech slowly turns into: “… and we thank you Jesus for everything..”-which is very good, but it was strange to me first when I didn’t know much about Nigerian people.

Today I know that at your wedding, at your birthday, and at your graduation, you better be prepared for some worship and praise songs. It doesn't matter how badly you sing but you better be singing with serious passion.

Sometimes I still feel a bit left out when everyone else knows the songs….and they sing back to back non-stop songs, one after the other. I’m also struggeling when I know the song because I’m not really blessed with beautiful voice. The good thing is though that not every Nigerian people sing very well and some of them sing in a different melody.

This is actually really good for me. At least I can chose to sing whatever melody I like and nobody even realise it. Praise the Lord!


Do you want to look like a supermodel with perfect and healthy skin?  I know what you think my sister. You probably believe that those pictures are just the work of the photographer , make up artist and Photoshop.  Trust me, my sister,  there is a way to get a healthy skin naturally by developing a healthy routine and start some new habits.

There are certain foods that can contribute to your brand-new beautiful skin. Some of the most powerful complexion perfecters are strawberries,  citrus fruits, red peppers and broccoli.  Not really Nigerian foods, are they?
Good news is that you don't have to eat plenty of them toachieve the best result.2 cups of fruits or 1 cup of the vegetables mentioned above can help you prevent wrinkles by creating a strong support layer on top of your skin. You can get the same beauty benefits with dark orange, red vegetables and apples.
Do you prefer heavy foods? Don't worry you won't starve when you are on a skin improving diet. There are a lot of protein-rich foods to choose from

Sunflower seeds and salmon can help you to protect your skin in the sun; lean meat, pork and poultry will give a young glow to your skin. Aim for 2 tablespoons hulled seeds and one palm-sized serving of meat daily.
Besides following a healthy life style what else can black women do to maintain touchably soft skin?

Moisturizers are a must. Black skin can appear to be "ashy" when it's not well lubricated.  For the face it's best to use a different cream made specifically for your facial needs.
Exercise can also be a good component to skin care. Regular workout keep the skin toned and makes you feel good.

Again, following a healthy diet and being active also can help to prevent breakouts.For most of us, having healthy skin takes a small amount of work, but beautiful skin is worth the effort. Whether you have ten minutes or an hour's worth of pampering, take the time you need. Every time you look in a mirror, you'll be glad you did.


Some of you know that I work as a recruitment consultant and I deal with hundreds of cvs every day. Well, hopefully. I'm always very excited to see a Nigerian name on a CV and I always try to help the person to find a job if I can.  However, there are a few things in Nigerian CVs that I'm not very excited about. simple ERRORS! !! Brrrrr....

When I see something like "Alabi Joseph" my first question is certainly:Is Alabi your surname?
The Nigerian way of writing names is different to the English one. in English your first namecomes first
,  then your middle name if you have one followed by your surname.  So the correct order would be "Joseph Alabi" in this case.
That's just one of the simplest mistakes I normally see. Good , that I even English colleagues would probably ignore it. They might not have the time to look for country code as well for the number provided in the curriculum vitae so please make sure you have the full number with all the dialing code , area code and extension number.

The next thing you have to remember is that recruiters literally have 1 minute for your CV.  sometimes even less. Wich means they do a quick keyword search and move on if you don't have the right words on your pages. Today for example I did my regular search for "subsea" and "control system" and I realised that this Nigerian candidate had not many of those words written.  I called him up anyway because he's Nigerian when he informed me about his extensive subsea experience.

Please don't do this to yourself!!!! Your cv is the only document a consultant has about you. Please make sure you use all your spaces to write.

The last thing I want to highlight today is the presentation.  You know,  my friend I spend valuable sales time to write adverts. I expect candidates to respect this and when they reply to my ads at least write SOMETHING.  Anything. "Hi, please find attached my cv for the design engineer job advertised on LinkedIn. "

There is nothing that I hate more than receiving a cv with a blank email.

That's it for today, guys. Hope I wasn't too harsh, now after a busy working day.if I was , please forgive me. Remember, recruitment people start their shift at 7am. Some of them even earlier.e ? The Nigerian way of writing names is different to the English one. In. s


Nigerian people know how to party. They have everything for it. Nice music, nice dress, delicious food and dance. What you need to know about Africans is that they have a tendency of arriving late. The guests definitely give enough time for the chef to prepare food!

The last Nigerian party I went to was very glamorous. Most of the women wore colourful gele and traditional dresses. Groups of friends wore the same pattern.

I really like gele, sometimes I wear it too, but most of the time I end up with a headache, probably because you have to tie it very strongly. It makes you look like an African queen when you have it on but most young people would rather wear their own hair.
The attires are all hand made to measure. Nigerian people like to make their own clothes instead of buying them ready.

The second essential thing in the party is the music. You normally have a band that sings for you but if they sing just for you, you have to pay, my friend. And not just a little! Nigerians love to “spray” money when the musician sings for them. Their favorite money to “spray” is usually the one dollar bills. On hand also are the money changers who make sure you never run out the dollar bills.

After the older people have finished dancing, the younger ones start. With the dj centre stage young people try out their latest dance steps (Atlanta, Azonto or Yahooze). I really love watching them actually because as we know Africans can dance.

“Item no.7” at my last Nigerian party consisted of fried rice, jollof rice, white rice and stew, pounded yam, egusi soup, chicken, meat pie, salad and of course you can get cans of soft drinks, fruit juice, mineral water, alcoholic drinks and most importantly malt drink. Guests are usually served by caterers and you might even be lucky to get a take away. In some parties gifts are doled out to attendees from salt to plastic boxes, washing up liquid, or handkerchiefs that carry inscription of the celebrant’s photographs and details

All in all African parties are great fun and I always enjoy myself.


My dear husband helped me taking this lovely picture of me wearing traditional Nigerian dress. The style is an old style combined with the modern gele. 
You wouldn't believe it but the animals in the background were real. They looked amazing. My husband was trying to get some closer shoots when they were starting to come closer so he had to back off. 
The pictures are still lovely; hope you enjoy them. There are more pictures coming so keep checking back. 


I love Nigerian girls’ sense of fashion, especially the way they style their hair. Compared to European or English people, Nigerian women take extra care of their hair. Short, long, curly, straight hair…they have it all.

When I first started going to the women’s meeting at church I couldn’t believe how creative they were. I almost felt like I was at a fashion show. All the women I met there had nice hair. Although African women spend a lot on hair extensions they always manage to look very gorgeous. White people, (if I think about my friends, my family and myself) are not too bothered about their hair compared to the African ladies that I've come across. Most of the time they just tie their hair up.

My African friends use a variety of hair extensions, wigs, hats, hair bands and all sort of hair accessories. However, my favorites are when they have African inspired hairstyles instead of European ones. Those look uber cool, doesn't it? Possibly people are influenced by celebrities like Rihanna or Beyonce. So they should, after all, they are powerful women and I will like to rock the African hairstyle myself anyway.